Step 1: Realize, and accept the fact that this task is virtually impossible. The only thing you can do is lessen your embarrassment by being aware of a few things and learning to laugh at yourself.
step 2: Learn to take everything with a grain of salt and gain insight from embarrassing moments to keep from putting yourself in similar situations a second time.
Now, let's look at scenarios....
Your relationship begins with your "establishment date" the simple coffee date where he states his intentions and you establish the relationship.
He will most likely tell you why he wants to pursue you and he may have one of the best reasons with some of the most amazing little pieces of what becomes the story of you, and what he thinks of you and you're soon-to-be relationship.
WARNING: This kind of story tends to have a shock factor and will often times catch you off guard. Don't let it get the best of you or you'll respond with a pretty ridiculous word.
Good Response: (smile) "I think that's one of the best ways a relationship can begin. I'm very excited."
Bad Response(Embarrassment level 5): (With an unreadable facial expression and after an uncomfortably long pause.) "That's Fascinating!"
Scenario #2
You've gone out a few times and have seen each other often enough that you know hold hands when walking an sitting. The relationship is moving at a comfortable speed and things seem to be going well. What is a more typical date than a movie?
Let's say you decide to see a movie neither of you knows much about...(WARNING: VERY BAD IDEA!) You find your seats and the movie begins. 15 minutes in the main character gets himself into a potentially VERY INAPPROPRIATE position. Your date offers you an escape by saying there's no pressure to stay.
Good Response: "Okay, let's go," (Smiling pleasantly to relieve disappointment in the movie.)
BAD Response: (Being naive Embarrassment Level 9) "It's okay, He won't really do anything .... "(Shock at movie scene::: This is where the date cuts in saying that the movie is stupid and you can both leave.) DON'T BE NAIVE MOVIES CAN ALWAYS BE HORRIBLE!
Scenario #3
House dates are a great idea. Your new significant other gets a chance to interact with your family and feel comfortable in your home. A great way to have fun with both your date and your family is to play a game.
Phase 10 is a card game best played in a group. Before playing games like this, think through game terms and make sure you think before you speak in EVERY possible circumstance!
In phase 10 you have to create a sequence of cards to reach your proper phase. A straight (Numbers in counting order) is called a run.
A certain number of the same card is referred to as a set.
When trying to figure out where everyone is in the game, and what phase you're all on, avoid any accidental play on words.
EXAMPLE-
Good Question: "Is everyone passed Phase 5?"
BAD Question(Embarrassment level 10): "We all have the runs right?"
If you happen to fail and say all the wrong things, you still have a chance to redeem yourself if you're in a relationship with a good person.
And if anything you can use the excuse that you were "Getting a feel for how he would respond to different things." :o) It may not be true but you do learn a lot about a person when you embarrass yourself.
Lucky for me, I have one of the most incredible gentlemen God placed on this earth. LOL
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